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Which wife do you just not 'get'?
August 13, 2012
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Gill
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I’m unconvinced of COA’s virginity. Apparently after Arthur died there was a delay of at least a couple of months before Henry was declared the heir, while they waited to see if she was pregnant or not. Wouldn’t that have been a good time to pipe up and say ‘hey guys, don’t bother, I can’t be preggers because we didn’t do the nasty” ? But she never said a word and let everyone wait. There is no real evidence that Arthur was frail or sickly and he seems to have been expected to inherit, stick a teenaged boy in bed with a pretty girl and tell him to get on with it…there’s not many who wouldn’t happily oblige. As to Katherine not getting pregnant – I read somewhere that Margaret Beaufort had laid down strict rules about when they could sleep together, so perhaps they just never did it on the magic night. Also, wasn’t there some evidence that Katherine faked a pregnancy early in her marriage to Henry, because she hadn’t concieved yet after several months? Or did I imagine that? If it’s true, it also shows that Catherine was capable of being deceitful (although I find it hard to imagine what she thought it would achieve!) I don’t buy the ‘she wouldn’t have lied because she was so religious’ argument either – there have been countless instances of religious people lying. She wouldn’t have felt her soul imperilled so long as she told her confessor, and what she told him went with him to the grave.

August 13, 2012
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You make some very good points Gill. I’m not all that familiar with Catholicism in Tudor times, but if Catherine did sin by lying and then confessed to her priest and did her penance, wasn’t the lie kind of wiped off the record, so to speak?

August 13, 2012
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Janet said

You make some very good points Gill. I’m not all that familiar with Catholicism in Tudor times, but if Catherine did sin by lying and then confessed to her priest and did her penance, wasn’t the lie kind of wiped off the record, so to speak?

Janet,
Yes, as long as she never said it again.
Gil,
I think when a royal husband died, the wife was sequestered whether she knew she was pregnant or not. Mary, Henry’s sister, was also sequestered after Louis died. The wife’s word didn’t much count for anything.

August 13, 2012
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I understand the Catholic confession, but for Catherine it wouldn’t have been so easy. If she lied she would continue to live the lie for as long as she was married to Henry. Confession, in my mind, is admitting the sin, and asking for forgiveness through penance. But if she continued to live the lie, and to live in sin, then how could she possibly have expected forgiveness for the ongoing sin? That is a genuine question, by the way.

August 13, 2012
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Louise,
She couldn’t. Confession is all about telling the sin, receiving Penance for the sin, asking forgiveness, and never committing the sin again. If KOA lied to her confessor, and continued to commit the sin in the future, she would be making a mockery of the sacrament. She would have died with the sin on her soul. To Katherine that would have been unacceptable. It’s not only about telling your sins. It is about not committing the same sin in the future. I give Katherine a little credit here. She was a very devout woman.
To Katherine, Confession and Penance were sacred sacraments. It was a duty. Living with a lie, let alone telling it over and over for years, I think would be impossible for her. I don’t think she was a “Sometimes Catholic.” I don’t think she was the type of Catholic who would think telling a lie was something her God would overlook. For her, life started after death, and she had to be worthy of attaining everlasting life. I think she was one of those rare true believers who would not let any sin sit on her soul.

August 13, 2012
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Was Catherine’s virginity a condition of the dispensation for Henry to marry her in the first place? Did it say that Henry could marry her only if her marriage to Arthur hadn’t been consummated?

August 13, 2012
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Elliemarianna said

I have trouble understanding Jane Seymour. Silent yet devious? Placid yet a viper in the grass? She is a contradiction, I imagine her a cold, spiteful woman with a sense of entitlement, devoid of personality. Anne may have followed a similar path in her climb to the throne, but at least she was honest, perhaps too much so. I find it strange that Jane is so exalted for nothing much at all…

I have trouble understanding Jane Seymour too, I first have to decide who I think she was before I think I can try and understand her. I don’t know if she was just a poor timid girl, not the cleverest of people, who just did whatever other people ushered her into doing, or as you say Eliie, silent and devious Confused they always do say its the quiet ones you have to be careful of!

August 13, 2012
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Janet,
This is where the whole thing started. The marriage treaty stated that she had consummated her marriage to Arthur. Ferdidnand said she was a virgin. He said England knew it, but the English still want the dispensation to say the first marriage was consummated. “The English wanted the pope to state clearly he had taken into account the idea of consummation with Arthur when giving Katherine a dispensation to marry and have legitimate children with Henry.” In totally political fashion the Pope eventually sent England the dispensation which said “perhaps” Katherine and Arthur had consummated their marriage.
Whatever that means. Cry

August 13, 2012
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Olga said

Didn’t he get a special dispensation with Anne because he had slept with Mary, and then used Mary when he needed to get rid of Anne? Argh. I remember a priest telling me once you shouldn’t take the Bible too literally Laugh

On Katherine and Arthur, I was just thinking about this a couple of days ago, as you do. They were married for six months. Katherine conceived with Henry right away, now I would think she would have managed the same with Arthurif they’d been sleeping together regularly.
But I agree with Ellie, if she did lie, I wouldn’t blame her one bit.

I believe Henry did ask for a special dispensation, to marry Anne although Anne was not named on Henry’s request. He mearly asked if he could have a dispensation to marry a woman of his choosing, despite the fact he had already had a relationship with another family member.
I don’t suppose we will ever know the truth about KOA and Arthur’s marriage on whether it was consumated, but from what we know of KOA, I believe she was telling the truth when she said that she and Arthur didn’t have sexual intercourse. KOA was a deeply devout woman I don’t think she would have lied about that as she would know that her soul would forever be dammed. If she did lie about Arthur, I think it was an honourable lie and done for the best of reasons, on her part. After all going back to Spain was not an option for her and she believed with her whole heart that’s God’s calling for her was marriage and children (regardless of the crown). That is something she steadfastly stuck to all her life, and for that I do have a lot of respect for her, but as I have already said, I’ll like to smack her one for as well.
If she had stepped aside she could have lived the rest of her life in comfort and still been shown the same respect as she got as Queen. Mary wouldn’t have been declared a bastard, and could have been married with children of her own by the time she became Queen which again would have still been possible.

I am not to sure about this but I think it was Cardinal Campagio who made the suggestion to KOA about the convent, but I also have a feeling that Wolsey may have implied to KOA about going into a convent.

Semper Fidelis, quod sum quod

August 14, 2012
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Yes, apparently cardinal Campeggio was surprised no one seemed to have thought about it.

I’m currently reading Denny’s book (which I’m taking with a huge grain of salt, by the way) and she claims some months after Arthur’s death, a document arrived from the Vatican giving Arthur permission to forbid COA from fasting as it was disrupting her menstrual cycle and stopping her getting pregnant. She claims this is proof that Arthur requested it because he was concerned she had not yet conceived. As I said, this is Denny and I have no idea where she got this from and I don’t recall seeing this little nugget anywhere else, so it could be a load of hooey.

August 14, 2012
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In Giles Tremlett’s book, Catherine of Aragon, he tells the same story as Denny. She wasn’t eating, she was always sick with some malady or another, and her periods were irregular. She was constantly under a physician’s care. She suffered from hot sweats, cold sweats, tertian fever, derangements of the stomach, etc. Tremlett says her symptoms sound like anorexia. (this happened from the time she got to England until 1507 when her spanish physician said the color had finally returned to her face.)
Henry VII was so worried about her health and eating habits that he had Arthur write to the Pope. Tremlett says the Pope’s reply is dated confusingly. The Pope told Arthur he had the right to prevent her from overdoing the fasting. “A wife does not have the full power of her own body.” She was endangering her own health and her ability to have children.
Denny takes it further than Tremlett when she says this is proof that they were having sex. Denny didn’t seem to care for Katherine. I suppose this subject will be around for another 500 years. As we know it wasn’t Edward who was constantly ill. Sounds like Katherine who was the one who may have been sick most of the time during that marriage.

August 14, 2012
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Well Sharon this is definetely a new one on me. I knew that KOA was ill at the same time as Arthur, but I didn’t know that she had had any illness before then? I know that she was told by her father I believe that she had better get used to drinking ale and wine in England as the water was undrinkable, and perhaps our ale upset her system, which was why she was sick so often. Fasting was considered the norm as it was to serve as a reminder of all those who had to go without, at least that’s what I think is the idea behind fasting.
Thinking about this could have some of her problems be down to stress or even a nervous disorder almost like a mini breakdown of sorts? After all the fate of the whole Tudor dynasty was in her hands, Arthur was far from well so it was down to her to come up with the goods and produce an heir. She was also under the same pressure from her father if she failed to come up with the goods it would reflect badly on him.
I rather think that Spain needed England more than the other way around.
When Arthur died and the talk of consumation came up KOA vehemently denied that she and Arthur had, had sex, although the washerwoman of the household said that they saw blood on her bedsheets on the morning after her wedding night with Arthur. KOA explained this away by saying she had pricked her heel and put the blood on the sheets. Well she may well have done, perhaps to save Arthur’s dignity and to allieviate the enormous pressure he would have under to become a stud to his brood mare, basically due to the fact that Viagra wasn’t around then he simply wasn’t able to do what needed to be done. In short he was hung embarrassed and unable..
Arthur was far from well and it didn’t help matters with his health to send him off to Ludlow small wonder he took ill with some sort of tersan fever and died.. Perhaps KOA’s symptoms were not helped by the fact she was starving herself as well.
Juding by what Sharon has said about KOA’s illnesses during her first marriage it sounds very like she had perhaps a genetic condition that she passed onto Mary, who also suffered with the problems Sharon has mentioned here.
H7 got the dispensation from the Pope for the marriage between her and H8 the wording of which was kind of like a belt and braces (as Dr Dave puts it) approach which left the whole question of consumation between Arthur and KOA up the air, which of course Henry 8 exploited to the max when he wanted shot of KOA..

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August 15, 2012
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Denny’s obvious anti-Katherine bias was kind of annoying. The poor woman could do nothing right in her eyes. Everything was either arrogance or pride or deceitfulness or treachery. I don’t think it’s necessary to demonise KOA in order to be a supporter of Anne. I do believe KOA was stubborn and yes, probably quite prideful but I also think she felt she had good valid reasons to fight the divorce. Whether we agree with her or not is not really the point…she thought she did.

August 15, 2012
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Fasting is a bit more to do with your dependence on God, for penance, and I think early Christians fasted in preparation for the resurrection, hence Lent. Usually you also fast before communion, emptying your body and transcending earthly things, etc etc. My Mum still cuts out animal products on Wednesdays and Fridays every week, even though she only takes communion a few times a year.
Anyway clearly Katherine was overdoing it. I’m pretty sure the Church was lenient with women and fasting being that they had to conceive and that a poor diet would hinder that. I doubt the ale had enough alcohol content to upset her stomach Bo, though then again getting used to different food might not have helped. I thought they cooked everything because they thought raw food was dangerous.
There was a history of depression in Katherine’s family. I think stress could easily have been a factor in her illnesses, just like I think most of Mary’s illnesses came about from stress. Elizabeth too, for that matter. Although I don’t know if they made those connections back then.

August 15, 2012
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Brewing wasn’t an exact science at those times. Monks used to use ale/beer as liquid food during fast days.

Modern Trappist beers run at 6-10 % ABV with some being brewed upto 11.3% ABV( the same as some modern white wines). Small beer which is the grist being re-boiled with fresh water varies due to the original ale/beer style being brewed. So anything form 2-6 % ABV was typical.

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August 16, 2012
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18Yes Olga you are right people did believe that raw food was dangerous to your health. Did you know that KOA brought salad over from Spain? But of course it was a hot salad as everthing had to be cooked..
Again you are right, about mental health problems within the family, Juana, KOA sister was known as Juana the Mad, her problems really came to a head after the death of her husband, although she was exhibiting signs of deleruim before then in the form of great bursts of anger and jealously towards her husband’s mistresses and he was known to have many. One of his Mistresses actually had all her hair shaved off by Juana in a fit of rage and I believe she was beaten with a whip for good measure too. After Philip died she refused to allow his body to be buried as she simply didn’t believe he was dead. Although she inherited the thrones of both Aragon and Castille and also of Leon, her mental state just couldn’t cope with it, and Charles V her son was forced to imprison his mother for the rest of her life. Juana died on Good Friday, 12 April 1555 at the age of 75 in the Convent of Santa Clara at Tordesillas. She is entombed in the Royal Chapel of Granada in Spain alongside her parents Isabella I and Ferdinand II, and her husband Philip I.
It’s quite possible then for Poor Mary to have had a double dose of bouts of depression, as Henry’s side also had madness within the bloodline.
As his great great Grandfather was Charles the Mad of France, he used to go through phases where he was ok for a while and then go squirrels, at one stage he believed he was made of glass and if anyone touched him he would shatter..

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August 16, 2012
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One thing I don’t ‘get’ about KOA, is what did she really hope to achieve? I understand why she did not want to say her marriage was invalid or have her daughter declared illegitimate, but I don’t understand what she really thought the outcome of her actions would be. She was by far the longest married to Henry, but I think she perhaps understood him the least of all. Firstly, he was never going to allow anyone to compel him to do anything – the more she tried to force him to reinstate her the harder he would kick back. And secondly, imagine if somehow she did manage to compel him to take her back…did she imagine things would go back to how they had once been? A thwarted Henry was a vicious Henry, and he would have loathed her for humiliating him and forcing him to comply to her will. Can you imagine how poisonous the court would have been? I think Henry would have treated her very badly anyway but publicly because she would be at court, and I think he would have lashed out even more at Mary too to punish her mother. He would have made their lives possibly even more intolerable than he did. I don’t get how KOA could have imagined any possible positive outcome from it all.

August 16, 2012
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Bo I just finished a book on Katherine and Juana by Julia Fox, you really should read it, she does a good job showing Juana was probably not quite as mad as has been made out. Yes she was prone to depression and fits of anger etc but it doesn’t seem she was completely unhinged. It’s worth a read, I really enjoyed it.
In all honesty the first time I read about the salad was in Boleyn Inheritance so I wasn’t sure about it Laugh But I have read about is since. Greeks cook greens too, it’s horrible. I shriek at my Mum when she offers them to me.

Gill I think that Katherine honestly thought if she could get Henry away from Anne all would go back to normal. She thought (I think that is) that Anne was the entire cause of all of their problems and if she disappeared then Henry would go back to her.
Hypothetically if she had managed to somehow get rid of Anne, Henry wouldn’t have allowed himself to be shown as thwarted, and Katherine wouldn’t have been stupid enough to make out like she thwarted him either. Katherine would make it seem like it was all Henry’s idea and he was wronged by Anne. I think she understood him well enough, probably better than the others. After all they had twenty years of a relatively peaceful marriage, I know there were some earlier incidents, but she grew to know how to handle him.
The divorce was not an ordinary situation. It’s not one she could have ever imagined happening.

August 16, 2012
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Olga, I think you could be on to something here..If you think about it most if not all of Henry’s mistresses were always ladies in KOA’s circle.
KOA’s knew Henry liked a fumble outside marriage so when one of her ladies was flavour of the month for Henry, she was already working out how to get shot of her once Henry had, had his fun. With the exception of Mary Boleyn who was already married when Henry had a dabble with her his mistresses were generally quickly married off and left court. Perhaps coming back for short visists when their husbands were needed in London.
Anne was very different to any of Henry’s other mistresses. Anne wasn’t all “Yes Sir, No Sir, 3 bags fulls Sir, Bottle up your farts Sir and sell them for perfume”. She basically told Henry to go do one.
The concept of a woman saying no to him, and made him all the more determined to have her in any which way he could. KOA keeping her close was perhaps her way of finding a chink in Anne’s armour to use against her, she already tried to turn Henry away from Anne by believing the gossip that was circulating about Anne having 3 Nipples and a 6th finger, which was why she got her to play cards with Henry and herself. By trying to show Henry, that Anne had defects Henry would quickly point his weapon elsewhere, at least that was her idea, and Anne could quietly leave the court married to some varlet of KOA’s choosing, and Henry being embarrased by the thought of wanting to mate with a woman with defects etc would agree with KOA to marry and get Anne away from court as fast possible and thank God for his lucky escape. KOA would once again be the top dog in Henry’s woman..
Both Henry and KOA were stubborn, they both dug their heels in and KOA in some ways developed Ostrich syndrome.
KOA refused point blank to see Henry’s side of the arguement, he needed a son and she couldn’t do that. She was jealous of the influence Anne had over Henry, and perhaps felt resentful that after all she’s done for him, he was trying to cast her aside like a worn out shoe. She actually must have felt very humiliated. She knew that Mary couldn’t ever have hoped to rule in her own right, that whoever she married would be deemed the ruler of England, even if the throne came to him by the hand of his wife. England had been her home a lot longer than she’s lived in Spain surely she would have wanted England to stay English and not just part Spain or France etc? In wanting that she would have betrayed the English people she loved and who loved her too..
Henry on the other hand was desperate for a son, KOA was too old to bear children. He was in love with a woman who promised to give him a son.
He was fed up with the boring life he had with KOA and perhaps also fed up with the way she bossed him or perhaps appeared to, about too.
KOA in his eyes still saw him as child and at times treated him like one too and it annoyed him. Anne had opened Henry’s eyes and shown him that things could be very different if only he grew up, so to speak. Henry didn’t want to see England become just another dominion of some forgien country. He was born English, his parents were English and he wanted the throne to remain English.

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August 16, 2012
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The incident where they were playing cards is what I just read about in Ives actually, he says Katherine was trying to keep Anne out of Henry’s way initially. Early on Henry was playing a game of courtly love with her and I don’t think Anne was exactly welcoming his advances, and when they became real advances, as we all know she refused to be his mistress. I suspect Katherine would have realised when he was getting out of hand. The whole trying to show off her sixth finger in that card game was apparently an invention, repeated to George Wyatt. But Ives thinks she would have been trying to keep her busy, therefore out of Henry’s sight.

I’ve said it before and I still think that if all of Katherine’s children had lived there would have been no divorce, there would have been no marriage breakdown and they would have gone on contentedly. Henry started to see flaws in the marriage when he couldn’t get what he wanted, as he did with his other wives. He did the very same to Anne after her failure to produce and heir, only he went a step further to ensure there would be no messy divorce this time. Everything revolved around Henry, and quite frankly I think Katherine of Aragon was the only one able to handle him properly, I’ll give kudos to KP for managing him well enough later, although there was the near-arrest. You’ve seen how the rest of his wives fared.

Katherine started to lose her grip on him after the death of their first son, also once Wolsey stepped in she lost her status as ‘advisor’ to Henry and I think that’s when she started turning to religion even more. I think losing so many children put her under enormous stress and humiliation already and Anne was the last straw. Sometimes I agree with her, sometimes I don’t. I’m still undecided.

As for not seeing Henry’s point of view, Katherine came from a country where her mother ruled equally with her father, her sister inherited the throne of Castille (although they stole it from her) and so she couldn’t see why Mary couldn’t rule.

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