March 7, 2016
Can anyone tell me how grief was dealt with in 15th century? I know death was a lot more prevalent but I assume human emotions and feelings of loss and grief have not altered all that much over time that even though people harden to death might not be as sensitive. I think that loosing a beloved spouse,child, parent, or close sibling must of still be painful for them.
So how did the people behave around the griever? Especially in the case of men I presume that people would just expect him to pull himself together and be stoic about it?
I think I remember they had mourning periods but what I am really trying to find out is what emotional support grieving people got from family and friends.
November 18, 2010
While death was far more common in Tudor times and marriages arranged for political or economic reasons, basic human emotions were the same as they are now.
Unless one spouse loathed their partner, then yes a people gave space for the family to mourn. Masses for the dead along with endowing chanceries for the rich mourners gave a feeling of closure. Getting a church to ring a peel of bells for lower classes did the same. Many families shouldered monetary burdens in order to ensure their loved ones had a properly devote Christian send-off in order to gain either Heaven or a shorter time in Purgatory for the deceased.
A man left a widower would be expected to remarry quickly if he had children in order to provide the children with a mother. Likewise a widow would be encouraged to re-marry, if for no other reason than she was a burden on her late husband’s family..
Some people..cough HenryVIII cough…had to be bullied into re-marrying following the death of his second wife by the House of Commons..
Mourning rituals and periods evolved over the years until they reached a peak in the Victorian Age when you had full mourning, half mourning, court mourning..Widows wears full black weeds for a year followed by half mourning(grey, purple, white) for 6 months..Following the death of Queen Victoria , mourning started to die off slowly until the start of WWI when the massive slaughter of soldiers and the need to minimise grief to support war effort meant that frivolities like an extended mourning period was considered to be unpatriotic.
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