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You all are amazing!!
January 27, 2011
12:23 pm
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MegC
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I just chewed out my other message board and left it because I couldn't stand what it was becoming.  It was a message board for moms who had children in August of 2010 and most of the women on there have been on there since the beginning of their first trimester in Nov 2009.  We've had our share of debates (vaccines, letting your kids watch TV, formula-feeding vs. breast-feeding, etc.), but most were fairly civil.  The debates recently, though, have begun to spiral out of control with name-calling and accusations abounding.  Finally, last night, a woman posted a thread that basically said that all mothers who practice letting their children cry-it-out as a form of sleep training were bad, uneducated parents.  She didn't use those exact words, but it didn't take much to read between the lines.  

After that, I'd just had it, wrote a post chewing out the people who were essentially egging on the situation and left, never to return.  I'm sorry, I just don't think any woman sitting behind a computer screen has the right to tell anyone how to raise their kids.

I have such a huge appreciation for The Anne Boleyn Files, now.  This place is like the sea of tranquility.  We can have our debates without calling each other names, and we can respect when someone knows more than we do and be appreciative for their information.  We all realize that we have a shared goal and interest–to learn more about Anne Boleyn, her family, her life, and the world that she lived in. 

So keep being amazing, ladies and gents!

"We mustn't let our passions destroy our dreams…"

January 27, 2011
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Dog-piling and encouraging dog-piling were the major 2 reasons I stopped modding.

 

Spammers are easy to deal with. But those who deliberately stir up trouble  should have their pcs taken from them .

 

Fortunately there are plenty of other forums like this one.

It's always bunnies.

January 29, 2011
5:38 am
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This is a great forum to be part of. Even though we may disagree with one another from time-to-time, our responses are always respectful and considerate.

I love this forum because I feel welcome. my opinion is valued, and I value others opinions. This is a great place to make new friends, learn about new people, and talk about all things Anne. It does not get much better than that.

MegC, the internet is an easy place for cowards to act tough. They never have to meet you face to face and say the things they write. It seems like some people on the motherhood fourm are devoid of civility, and that's not right. People like are best ignored, so they can crawl back under the rock from once they came. MegC your dicussions here are always kind and insightful. I enjoy reading your posts and engaging with them. You are a better person for leaving the other forum because no one should tolerate abuse of any kind. Best to you!

"By daily proof you shall find me to be to you both loving and kind" Anne Boleyn

January 29, 2011
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You are so right Meg, this is such a wonderful place to visit – a real haven to come to and know that you're opinions are always going to be respected!  

I've only ever been involved with two forums and never really come across what you described in your parenting one (though the other can get quite heated!) though know some people who've had some pretty horrible experiences on some.  I think DuchessofBrittanys right in that the internet attracts people who love nothing more than to berate others and stir things up whilst staying completely anonymous.  Complete cowards.

Maybe Anne just attracts cool people!  Cool  

January 31, 2011
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wreckmasterjay said:

Yeah I agree this forum is very friendly and it has been a great way to make new friends who like the same stuff as you. I have become friends with many of them on facebook and talk to them on a regular basis! 

 

People who are derogative on forums are usually trouble makers and bored and should get a life! Glad I have never seen anything like that on here….I think Claire would kick them out Cool 

 

That is what amazed me!  I kept thinking someone would jump in and say…”Ok, enough of this.  This thread is closed”, but the forum moderators just let it keep going!  And all this over a debate over how to sleep train your child (cry-it-outers vs non-cry-it-outers).  People were getting hateful, telling other moms (first-time moms at that!) that they didn't love their children because no mom who loved her kids would ever do such a thing and blah blah blah.  

And these from the people who regularly said things like, “Oh, all moms need to raise their kids in whatever way works for them.  As long as your baby is happy and healthy it doesn't really matter”.  Can't stand hypocritical crap like that. 

"We mustn't let our passions destroy our dreams…"

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